Read Falk's "Case Study: The Unexamined Lives of Two Women Alone" in the Jan-Feb 2009 Psychotherapy Networker.
"Aloneness is an opportunity, a state brimming with potentiality, with resources for renewed life—not a life sentence. Its cultivation should not be an apology but an art. In the space of aloneness—and perhaps only there—a woman is free to admit and act on her own desires. It is where we have the opportunity to discover that we are 'not a half' but a sovereign whole. With that insight, we can then begin to discard the remnant of 'thingness'—the spoiling belief that gives rise to our timidity, insecurity, and fear—so that we can realize true autonomy, with or without a partner."