Love, Actually

In his February 7, 2014 New York Times article, “Love, Actually,” Andrew Reiner argues that Generation Y is barely equipped to deal with marriage. In fact, he believes young men and women in their late twenties and early thirties are often incapable of true intimacy with a partner. In part, this is because they have been so intent on ‘getting it on’ and ‘hooking up’ that the real determinants of a loving relationship – trust, above all, but also time to grow vulnerable toward the other person and thereby, the opportunity to develop a genuinely intimate relationship. The problem is systemic: we live in a culture that teaches us to be impatient and bored; to satisfy one whimsical desire before moving on to the next. In this context, people – and serious relationships – are expendable. Alas, so are we. For if we can hook up and move on, so can the other person. And isn’t hooking up better than taking the chance that we might end up alone? Generation Y, and the rest of us as have a lot to learn.